The other woman can’t call him or see him when she wants to.Eventually those sneaky late night phone calls end abruptly with “I gotta go!Beating yourself up as a “monster” would, in fact, act as a sort of guilt release valve—as long as you beat yourself up as a terrible person periodically, you won’t feel the need to confess because you’re already being “punished.” Your transgression was neither “worse” nor “better” than his—it stands on its own, and nothing he did could either aggravate or ameliorate what you did. : I’ve known a guy as a friend for a few years, and we see each other every few months and catch up.
Finding someone to fill the void is much deeper than any feelings he has for the side chick. A lover of fine wine and food, I tend to break the bank of those who can handle me.
The ideal woman for this guy is the girl who has been hurt many times by single men and is in the stage where she just wants someone to love her.
After they meet and exchange conversation, he realizes what he has been missing at home and decides to pursue his happiness with her on the side.
I was so upset and again brought up his potential cheating, as it’s the only way I could have gotten an STD. I was never diagnosed but thought the lie would get him to confess. You could simply have said, “I no longer trust you, and I don’t believe you when you say you’re being faithful; if I can’t trust you, then we can’t be together,” and walked away from this relationship with your head held high. The reason you feel awful is because you have done something awful.
He broke down, admitted to an infidelity, and was devastated he gave it to me. This does not make you a monster; such dramatics are unhelpful to you at present.