He broke off one relationship because her dream of a downtown condo didn't fit with his need for a yard and swing set."I think sometimes the women I dated didn't realize that single dads still have parenting obligations that, for me, came first," said Ruyter, now 36, who maintains the blog "Memoirs of a Single Dad" (memoirsofasingledad.com) and recently self-published the book "Memoirs of a Dating Dad."Changing landscape As fathers grow more engaged in child rearing, and courts more willing to grant them custody, single dads increasingly are dating with kids in tow — in heart if not in hand.Sometimes the kids will love a new girlfriend until she moves in or you get engaged, because you've dashed their hope that their parents will get back together.
It means not underestimating your kids' intelligence when you try to pull off sleepovers on the sly.They need to bond, and it helps them see you're not taking him away.Be wary if he doesn't have your back against disrespectful kids.There's no rule, but six months after divorce is a safe bet. If you like to party a lot, or insist on leisurely Sunday brunch, or if you'll feel slighted to not be included in everything, save everyone heartache and don't date a dad.— A. Their cries for help, an if you read them you’d agree, ask me to explain these men’s confusing and frustrating behaviors – why they act how they do in the relationship.