But remember, there’s no use praying ‘lead me not into temptation’ (Matt ) and then putting yourself in a situation with the person you’re attracted to.
If you are getting along really well with a non-Christian man and you are attracted to him in a romantic way, it’s wise to pull back. Not only is it sexually immoral, it’s cruel to flirt if you have no intention of entering a romantic relationship with a person. If you’re serious about obeying God’s command to be sexually pure, you will dress accordingly. When everyone else seems to be paired up, you can feel very alone.
I wish that I could be happy in my singleness, but God doesn’t say I have to be happy; he tells me to be content.
I think that, for me at least, discontentment is about fear—fear that I’m never going to get married, fear that I’m not going to have children, fear of being alone.
When you know that a man is a temptation for you, respond by asking God to deliver you from that temptation.
The other day, I received a text message from a non-Christian friend of mine. I think you’re really sexy & intelligent, and I think sex before marriage is fine. Do you want to catch up for lunch or dinner this week? When I recovered, I messaged back, apologizing if I had done anything to give him the idea I wanted to be anything more than friends.
I wasn’t interested in a romantic relationship with this particular non-Christian man. I’d spent years as a youth group leader telling teenage girls not to have sex before marriage and not to date or marry non-Christians.
Discontentment is dangerous because it leads some Christians to date or marry unbelievers.
However, although deciding to fix the ‘problem’ of singleness by dating and possibly marrying a non-Christian might solve some of the problems singleness brings, it will also create new problems.